Sunday, July 2


today's sol lesson on courtship was particularly useful for me...reaffirmed some of my views on having a relationship and also taught me a lot more on how to handle relationships...and i was very much enlightened on the viewpoints of courtship...and it gave me confidence in handling matters of the heart as well as keep me focused in my life journey in future...just want to share certain pointers which may be useful to those reading this...

Stage 1- Casual friendship
Definition: both can relate to one another without entertaining thoughts of exploring to be a special friend
Preparation: understand/appreciate one another, seek freedom from past entanglement

Stage 2- Social friendship
Definition: interaction with intent of knowing each other better without pressure of dating commitment

Stage 3- Courtship
Definition: deliberate interaction, developing to pt where both both are ready to consider marriage
*note*it is impt to draw boundary n set proper expectation that a couple is not ready to consider marriage

it is impt that we understand the definitions for each stage as we progress in a relationship and more often than not, commitments are made too early in the stages and thats when complications arises...

Qualities to look for in a mate:
1. commitment to personal growth
2. emotional openess
3. integrity
4. maturity & responsibility
5. healthy self-esteem
6. +ve attitude towards life
7. personal chemistry

i will definitely use these 7 factors in choosing my future mate...

Fatal Flaws to Watch Out For In A Partner:
1. anger
2. victim consciousness
3. control freak
4. hasn't recovered from past relationships
5. emotional damage from childhood

Types of relationship that don't work:
1. you care more abt partner than the other does abt you
2. you are in love with your partner's potential
3. you look up to your partner as a role model
4. you are infatuated with your partner for ext reasons

there's still a lot more that i've learned from today's session..through these few weeks of lessons on courtship, marriage, family, relationships, i've grown and matured..listening to the experiences from ps yc was so encouraging as they are an example of how relationships can be worked and how a blessed family can be possible...the way i approach these issues is so different from the past and i myself am surprised with this change...i'm continuing to learn with time to face these issues and i have the confidence cause i know the Lord is with me...

coincidentally, the main message which i learned from sol lesson and the sermon today is similar..in order to be focused and be stress-free, you have to learn to be a simple life, a life which only loves and serves Jesus....

jel; 6:24 pm